Body Freedom means coming to your senses, all of them. Absorb right here, right now what you see, hear, smell, taste and touch. Direct sensory stimulation is nourishment for your body. It’s “sensual nutrition”, another kind of food without…
The desire to love someone through and through and to be loved that way in return—for a lifetime—burns in the hearts of most everyone. Yet even though we are all truly worthy of such a love it…
Paying attention to sensory information helps you learn to be fully present. In this practice you simply experience sensory phenomena, you do not analyze or even name what you are experiencing. Naming can set in motion a…
Because so much of human behavior is goal oriented, peoples’ attention is usually engaged in doing, with each action taken primarily to lead somewhere else. Actions then lose their intrinsic meaning—their only importance is to move you…
Surrendering means you dive wholeheartedly into your actions, maintaining your vision of what you want but letting go of any expectation that things will turn out the way you planned. Instead of losing some imaginary freedom, this way of…
Control
People love to be in control, it makes them feel safe and secure. Very few are attracted to what may be perceived as its opposite—being out of control. Out of control can be scary, frustrating, even terrifying…
Al says, “I get in ornery, crappy moods, and there is no logical rational reason for it. If Pala is in the same room, she gets a sour look or a harsh, disrespectful tone of voice.” …
It is easy to blame difficulties or stresses in relationship on the shortcomings or oversights of your partner. By slightly altering your assessment of the situation from “my partner as source of the problem” to “my partner…
When asked to picture an ideal relationship, people often create a picture that focuses on the particular characteristics they would like in a partner. For instance: “I want a mate who makes me laugh, is a great…