Conscious Breathing Increases Intimacy

Conscious Breathing

Conscious breathing. one of the essential tools of Tantric loving, not only brings you into the moment so you can participate fully in an intimate sexual exchange, it also fortifies your reproductive system and heightens your sexual pleasure. In addition, your overall health benefits when you breath properly. Aches and pains, tension and anxiety disappear. Your body cells charge up with more oxygen. Your brain energizes for clear thinking.

Breath control during lovemaking also opens you up for extended pleasure and multiple orgasms. When you want more arousal and excitement breathe rapidly (panting), when you want to sustain riding the edge of sexual pleasure breathe slowly and deeply. Conscious breathing helps you learn to surrender and to ask for what you want. Focusing on a long slow exhalation (twice as long as your inhalation) assists you to let go. Extending your inhalation for twice as long as your exhalation aids in developing your assertiveness and self-confidence so you can express your desires. As well, breathing in harmony with your partner is a powerful way to cultivate your sexual relationship and strengthen your energetic connection.

Deep Belly Breathing

This exercise helps you to learn to breath deeply and consciously.

  • Sit, or lie down, in a quiet, comfortable place.
  • Loosen up by contracting and then releasing all the parts of your body.
  • Start at your feet—tighten, hold, let go.
  • Move to your calves—tighten, hold, let go.
  • And so on, all the way up to your head.
  • Remember the muscles in your face, neck and scalp—you may be surprised at how much tension they hold. 
  • When your body is relaxed begin to focus on your breathing.
  • Place your right hand on your abdomen, your left hand along the bottom of your ribs on your left side.
  • Inhale through your nose, slowly, deeply, naturally. Feel the air coming in through your nostrils. Follow it all the way down to your belly.
  • Your belly should rise as you begin your inhale, you may even push it out a little to help you relearn to breathe very deeply.
  • Continue to fill your lungs by expanding your rib cage.
  • Feel your ribs moving outward as you inhale. You may even push them out a little to help you.
  • Continue inhaling, filling the upper portion of your lungs.
  • Inhale until your lungs and even your throat, mouth and nose are completely full of air.
  • Use a slow count of five to time your inhale.
  • As soon as you are full of air, begin to exhale.
  • Do not hold your breath or stop between inhaling and exhaling.
  • Allow a smooth transition from “in” to “out”.
  • Exhale slowly through your nose counting to nine.
  • Pay attention to the sensation of air as it passes.
  • Inhale again and follow the breath down into your belly bringing with it vital energy.
  • Exhale and imagine all negativity, illness or tension leaving your body.
  • Continue to inhale and exhale slowly.
  • If thoughts intrude, gently call your attention back to your breath.
  • Follow each breath, slow and deep.
  • Do this exercise for a minimum of 10 minutes.

If you fall asleep while you are practicing conscious breathing, have a nice nap!

Harmonizing Your Breathing

During Tantric lovemaking partners often harmonize their breathing. You can do this for different effects.

  • At the outset of your loving time, sitting quietly together, looking into each other’s eyes and breathing in synchronicity will help you tune in to each other and tune out the rest of the world. Breathing slowly and deeply in this fashion will also relax you and help you focus on the present moment.
  • When you are both highly aroused and want to move the energy you have built up with your love play, stop active lovemaking and focus on conscious breathing. For instance, if you are engaged in intercourse stay joined but stop thrusting. Become still, look into each other’s eyes, and breathe slowly and deeply together focusing on moving your high sexual energy up from your genitals throughout your body. This will also deepen your emotional and energetic connection and help you prolong your pleasure.

Experiment with these variations of conscious breathing rhythm.

  • Both partners inhale and exhale at the same time.
  • One partner inhales while the other exhales.