Body Freedom is Sensual Nutrition

Body Freedom means coming to your senses, all of them. Absorb right here, right now what you see, hear, smell, taste and touch. Direct sensory stimulation is nourishment for your body. It’s “sensual nutrition”, another kind of food without…

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Your 4 Freedoms for Love

The desire to love someone through and through and to be loved that way in return—for a lifetime—burns in the hearts of most everyone. Yet even though we are all truly worthy of such a love it…

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Sensory Perception

Paying attention to sensory information helps you learn to be fully present. In this practice you simply experience sensory phenomena, you do not analyze or even name what you are experiencing. Naming can set in motion a…

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Train Your Mind To Focus

What do you do while you are jogging, washing dishes, making love, and so on? If your answer is anything other than jogging, washing dishes, or making love, you are not in the moment.

Try this…

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Getting There vs Being Here

Because so much of human behavior is goal oriented, peoples’ attention is usually engaged in doing, with each action taken primarily to lead somewhere else. Actions then lose their intrinsic meaning—their only importance is to move you…

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Surrendering and Letting Go of Results

Surrendering means you dive wholeheartedly into your actions, maintaining your vision of what you want but letting go of any expectation that things will turn out the way you planned. Instead of losing some imaginary freedom, this way of…

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Control and Surrender in the Art of Love

Control

People love to be in control, it makes them feel safe and secure. Very few are attracted to what may be perceived as its opposite—being out of control. Out of control can be scary, frustrating, even terrifying…

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Calling Each Other on “Stuff”

Al says, “I get in ornery, crappy moods, and there is no logical rational reason for it. If Pala is in the same room, she gets a sour look or a harsh, disrespectful tone of voice.” …

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Your Lover as a Mirror for Yourself

It is easy to blame difficulties or stresses in relationship on the shortcomings or oversights of your partner. By slightly altering your assessment of the situation from “my partner as source of the problem” to “my partner…

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Dealing With Conflict

Being in a relationship can be overwhelming. It can seem difficult to maintain your individuality. Your sense of self, who you are and what you stand for, may be threatened when your mate has a decidedly different…

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