Excerpts from Awakening Women’s Orgasm
A Cornucopia of Orgasms!
Women have a remarkable capacity for sexual pleasure. They can experience any number of many types of orgasm: clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms, ejaculatory orgasms, whole body orgasms, energy orgasms. Orgasms come in varying degrees of intensity, physical focus and duration. They can be a pleasurable little tingle or a body/mind/soul explosion. Some last for seconds, others minutes or even hours. While often stemming from genital stimulation, orgasms need not be confined to the genitals alone. Indeed as the following list of some types of orgasm shows-orgasms are available all over!
While there are disagreements about trying to describe or classify other types of orgasm that women experience, just about everyone, including good old Dr. Freud and pioneer sexologists Masters and Johnson, agrees that women can experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Stroking or massaging your clitoris-whose essential function is sexual pleasure-with fingers, vibrators, tongues, flowing water and any thing else that may come to mind, can lead to orgasm. For many women this is the easiest way to come.
Not all love button orgasms are the same-some are tiny ripples of pleasure others are a major climax. They can arrive one at a time, in a spaced out series, or in a continual flowing from one to the next.
Your vagina (or yoni as it is called in Sanskrit practice) is a powerful pleasure place-a truly sacred cave. Although some parts of your yoni may be more easily sensitive to pleasurable stimulation every part of the yoni from its wondrous mouth all the way back to the cervix can be taught to respond orgasmically. The response may vary from subtle to earth-shattering.
The vaginal g-spot has received a fair bit of attention in the last few years. It was so named for a western medical doctor, Dr. Graffenberg who “discovered” this highly erogenous zone. You may also think of it as the goddess spot as modern Tantric lovers call it-ancient Tantrikas called it the saspanda, Taoist sacred sex lovers called it the Black Pearl. Stimulation of an aroused goddess spot-the urethral sponge, which can be reached through the upper inside wall of the vaginal canal at about a depth of 11/2 to 2 inches-is one of the most commonly used methods for learning to reach vaginal orgasm.
Other types of orgasms
Ejaculatory orgasms, energy orgasms, anal, mini, blended, “soul sex”, and more ….
The Power of Breath
Breathing deeply with your partner is one of the most profound ways to cultivate your sexual relationship and strengthen your energetic connection. Conscious breath can help you free yourself for multiple orgasm – when you want more arousal and excitement breathe rapidly (panting), when you want to sustain riding the edge of sexual pleasure breathe slowly and deeply.
During lovemaking, and especially at peaks of arousal, make loving eye contact with your partner and harmonize your breathing. Try these variations:
Both partners inhale and exhale at the same time
One partner inhales while the other exhales…
“Foreplay” – Moving from the Outside-In
Because a woman’s sexual energy is like water it flows down, like water does, to the lowest levels. This means it moves from her extremities down and in to her genitals. Man’s sexual energy on the other hand, being fire, rises up just as flames do, from his genitals to the rest of his body. This helps to explain why whereas many men enjoy having their genitals touched at any time most women don’t respond to genital touching until they are already quite excited. Touching her vagina too soon may even be a turn off.
Rather than going for the “bulls-eye” direct your first loving attentions to her other delectable bits, away from her genitals. Use long, feather-light touches to begin with-stroking up her arms, legs and back with caresses that are slow and sweet. Feather-light touch expands her energy and adds sparkle and liveliness while a heavier touch, especially too soon, can contract and even deaden the sensations you’ve started to evoke….