Heart Talk: a Relationship Video Ebook
Solve Your Relationship Problems
Create Lasting Emotional Intimacy
by Relationship Coaches Al Link and Pala Copeland
Use the simple, powerful Heart Talk communication process in this Ebook to solve your relationship problems and create a loving, fulfilling life together.
Almost all relationships have problems that get in the way, causing disagreements, arguing, and fighting.
“I like to sleep with the window open.
You like to sleep with the window closed.
Let’s call the whole thing off.”
- How much of your time do you actually spend loving each other and having fun together?
- Are there issues that plague your relationship, spoiling your ability to live peacefully and happily together?
- Do you argue and fight about any of these things (or anything else)?
- Dangerous Lifestyle Habits
- Neatness and Messiness
- Sharing the Workload
- Spending Quality Time Together
- How Decisions Are Made
Removing existing blockages is often all that’s required to move forward and go higher. Then, as you proceed in your life together, your relationship will evolve along a path filled with remarkably consistent happiness and the sublime pleasure of freely giving and receiving love.
The Heart Talk is one of our favorite tools for couples who want to take their relationship to new psychological, emotional, energetic, and spiritual levels.
A Communication Tool that Really Works!
We created the Heart Talk many years ago as part of our spiritual practice and have been teaching others how to use it since 1997, with great results. Couples we work with use the process to quickly and permanently fix all sorts of difficulties that have been spoiling their relationship happiness. You can do the same by following the simple instructions presented in this vBook (video eBook).
- 67 pages of text
- 36 minutes of embedded instructional video
- 7 video segments
- Al and Pala demonstrate exactly how to do a Heart Talk
- The Heart Talk only takes a few minutes to do; 15 minutes is a really long Heart Talk
The Heart Talk can fix the biggest relationship problems you have, regardless of how long you have had them, how big they are, how serious they are, how impossible you might believe the solutions to be, and regardless of their detailed circumstances.
That’s a big claim to make, but it’s not an over-statement. The structure of the Heart Talk guarantees that, if you honor the process, both love and wisdom will be present.
Heart Open = Love Present
First, the person giving the Heart Talk must go to the core of their deep feelings and reveal one or both of these two things: In this situation a) I am afraid and/or b) I am hurting (or the many variations of these two emotions).
The Heart Talk is a relationship communication tool designed for couples who love each other. Therefore, when one of you gives a Heart Talk, revealing that you’re afraid or hurting, you are daring to be emotionally transparent and vulnerable and that’s what it means to have your heart open.
Also, when you hear someone you truly love tell you that in a situation involving you, they’re afraid and/or hurting, your heart will open. Both hearts are open. When hearts are open love is present.
Waiting Period + Calm Mind = Wisdom Present
Second, the listener must wait a specified period before responding. This allows the mind and emotions to calm down.
Most people are either feelers (primarily engaging the world through emotions and feelings), or thinkers (primarily engaging the world through ideas, logic, and rationality). If the listener is primarily a thinker, (s)he cannot offer an immediate rational solution that is devoid of feelings. If the listener is primarily a feeler, (s)he cannot respond with a quick over-emotional reaction that distorts reality.
With the mind and emotions calm, wisdom comes in. Therefore both love and wisdom are present.
Love and wisdom together can solve any problem.
How Effective is Al and Pala’s Heart Talk? Here’s One Couple’s Story
Excerpted from “Could a stripper pole save your marriage? By Colleen Oakley, Redbook, November 2009, pp. 86-93
How far would you go to save your marriage; 5 daring couples reveal what they did for love.
“We took a tantric workshop.”
Tamara Hutter, 35, and Stephen Hutter, 43; married 11 years; Burlington, Ontario
Tamara: After nine years of marriage, my husband and I were on the brink of divorce. Stephen would lash out at me over the smallest things, and I wasn’t much better. I was so tired of arguing. We felt that we had tried everything, including months of marriage counseling, but nothing was working. Our anniversary was coming up, and in one last surge of hope, I went online to try to find a gift for Stephen, something that might help our marriage survive as well. I came across the Tantric Sex Workshop by Pala Copeland and Al Link in Ottawa. The testimonials from other couples who’d attended sounded promising, and I thought that we didn’t really have anything to lose by trying it.
The workshop was very quaint. It took place in Pala and Al’s home on the beautiful Ottawa River. Over the three-day course, they taught us tantric sex techniques, and we had time to privately practice them. They also taught us to create our own space to make love in, by adding pictures, soft lighting, and sensual items. The ideas were simple, but they taught us new ways of expressing ourselves and appreciating each other.
Now when I am upset, I can tell Stephen that we need to talk and it won’t blow up into a big argument. The workshop also taught us that sex isn’t just sex — it’s a very spiritual way of connecting, which makes it a thousand times more enjoyable for both of us, physically and emotionally.
Stephen: Tami had told me she wasn’t happy and that we needed time apart. Counseling only seemed to worsen our problems; we were two strong-willed people who fought a lot, and in therapy all our anger would come out. When my wife came across Pala and Al’s workshop and suggested it, I was intrigued.
When we got there, I was nervous, but after Al started talking, my butterflies disappeared. I’d always been the type of guy to get angry if my eggs were cooked wrong in a restaurant. Pala and Al made me realize that I need to accept the things I can’t change and move on. They had us reexamine the way we looked at, talked to, and thought about each other.
The “heart talks” technique they taught us was key. If something’s bothering me, I tell Tami I want to talk. She listens, without responding. Then within 24 hours she comes back with her response. The talks diffuse confrontation and we both feel understood. I love my wife more each day and could not imagine what would have happened to us without this workshop.